Friday, April 8, 2011

The Final Verdict

February11th, 2011, at 3pm we are to appear before the judge to hear the final decision. 
The whole weekend before the court date I was a wreck, we have been going through this for so long and the end is finally here, but did I want to hear this verdict?  I did want this over but the verdict could just be the start of the appeal process and we would still have a long way to go.  I just sat and thought all weekend, what to do? Did I say everything right?   Was there anything that could make the judge not see the truth?  When people get up on the stand and straight out lie, there is always a chance of it being believed.  The weekend seemed to never end.
Monday morning, what a stressful day.  I spend the morning with my wife and we talked and stressed each other out about what we thought would happen, what we would do if the verdict didn't go our way.  Do we run and get our son and just flee the country?  Things like this really go through your mind, even though I would never do this, I do understand why someone would. 
The minutes ticked by and seemed like hours, I couldn't wait to get this over with, yet I really didn't want to go.  I felt like just running away and waiting for someone to call me and just give me the answer, I didn't know if I could really go through all this.
3 o'clock, time to go.  My wife and I parked and walked up to the courthouse, I don't think we spoke the entire time going there, we met up with our lawyer and she tried to break the ice by saying that she had a really good feeling about everything.   I think that's what lawyers are supposed to say, it didn't make me feel any better, I think I was expecting the worse.
We went in and sat down and waited for the Judge to come into the court.  Did that ever seem like an eternity?  My wife and I were already starting to tear up.  The Judge came in and sat down and was ready to start.  She started off by saying, "When you listen to people's testimony, sometimes they are truthful, sometimes they make mistakes about dates and what happened, and other times they out-right lie.  All three of these things took place in this case and I will go over them today and tell you how I reached my verdict."  All I could think was, my God, did she think I was a liar? Maybe she thought I was truthful, just tell me the verdict, I don't want to hear anything but the verdict.  My heart was pounding out of my chest, my palms were so sweaty, I have to say that this was nothing like I've ever felt before, I was so emotional, I tried to listen but sometimes the Judge seemed to speak like the adults in the Charlie Brown cartoons.  Thoughts and emotions were on overload but I tried to keep focus and listen.  Then she spoke about the lies in the case, she spoke about two people, one a defense witness and one a prosecution witness, the Judge spoke about our witness for about five minutes then she turned to the prosecution witness and spoke about that person for ten minutes, so far we are winning by having half as many lies I thought.  After our Judge was done with those two witnesses she turn to another prosecution witness, their main "star" witness, and hammered away for fifty minutes.  It really made me see this person in a different light.  I knew that they had emotional problems, but the judge made me see this witness entirely different then I thought I knew them.  I thought that the day was going our way but I didn't want to get my hopes up so I just took everything in stride.  When our judge was finally done talking about their "star" witness I was waiting for her to continue down the line of witnesses but she then just handed out her verdict. 
I was found "not guilty" on any of the allegations, and that I could return home to my son and we could now work on the healing process and make up for lost time.  This is why I haven't written for two months, we had a lot of catching up to do.

What have I lost?
My son saw me get arrested, put in handcuffs and put to the ground.
I missed my son's very first day of kindergarten.
I missed Halloween, he was a transformer.
I missed Thanksgiving, my wife cooked a feast for two.
I missed Christmas, Santa brought him a new Xbox with the Kinect, a new bike and other toys, but my son asked for his Dad to come home, not even Santa could make that happen.
I missed my son's 6th birthday, my wife took him and his friend to Chuck E. Cheese.
I'm out over $100,000 that's a small price to pay to get my family back.

What did I get?
I learned a valuable lesson, Family is the most important thing in this world, not money, not a big house, not materialistic things, just Family and the love between a Father and his Son.

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Kids? What Kids? I'm Here To Win!

Let me first start by saying that when I give any information about what’s going on in my case, it only deals with my case.  Since I have not had this happen to me before, and I hope that I never will again, I can only go by what I have seen in my case and then make judgments and opinions about what I feel is wrong with our court system.  I’m sure that there are really good county lawyers and really good minor council out there, but in my case, I just don’t see it.
 Maybe it’s just me, but it seems to me that state, county, appointed lawyers are in it only to try and win. Now I know what you are saying right now, “Duh!”  But I really thought that those types of county lawyers (ones not getting paid by the case) were there to find out the truth and see if they could salvage the family unit.  What an idiot I am, they are only in it to win no matter what the cost.  I’ve looked at most of the evidence of my case, and it just saddens me to see how things get turned around to make you look like a less then mediocre parent.  In my criminal case, there was a time that I had to take a polygraph test to try to prove my innocence, I took it and passed and this was one of the major pieces of evidence that helped me not land in prison for the rest of my life.  You would think that the opposing council would think that this is just the kind of evidence we need to help us sort through all these bogus facts and finger pointing, but they did not want it entered into evidence.  Why do you ask? (Even if you didn’t ask it, I’m pretending you did.) It’s because they are here to win, not to make things right or find out the truth.  How does this make your little five year old feel?  The court appointed minor’s council that your tax money pays for, and that represents YOUR child is not working for your child at all, they are working to win a case against you and put your children into foster care or at least in my case that’s how it is. 

Sunday, January 16, 2011

Back For A Blog

Well, it’s been a long time since I’ve written a blog.  Some of it was due to all the court stuff going on and then not really wanting to write about it, the other reason has been that due to all of my financial issues, I don’t currently have internet at the house that I am staying at, nor do I have any funds to get it installed.  It has been insane how our court system works.  Believe me when I tell you that it doesn’t work the way you think it would.  Most of the court dates are a waste of time; the court is trying to go over the dates and times that all of the attorneys are available and to see if the court is available at that same time.  Unfortunately, you are talking about three or four attorneys that have a bunch of other cases they are representing and trying, so sometimes, let’s say on October 1st, you’re at your court date and all they attorneys don’t have the same time off until November 5th.  That’s a month of two hours with my son instead of a month closer to being back at my house.
Everyone is working for your children. . . .This is not a true statement, and if you think it is, you might as well sign your kids over to the state now.  The only one that has the best interest of your children is you.  Your attorney might have you and your kid’s best interest in mind if you are paying for one yourself, but if you are going through the county because you have no money for representation; just remember that your kid’s attorney is also working in the same building.  Don’t think for a minute
that they don’t talk to each other and have the case already done before you are at court.  I know, “attorney/client privilege” but do you think they really care? It’s not like they are going to tell on each other and if this gets their work done faster then that’s what gets done.
My case is so strange to me.  It seems that the harder you try to prove your innocence the harder CPS tries to make you guilty.  I have had three different CPS workers on my case.  The first liar supposedly went out
on disability for some type of illness and then they handed my case off to some other liar who was the worst and most disgusting individual I think I have ever come in contact with.  Her entire goal was to just make up lies, no matter what you would say in an interview she would just write whatever she wanted to.  Who does the court believe; some parents on trial for not taking care of their kids or a CPS worker?  I just don’t
know how some of these CPS workers can sleep at night knowing that some children are not with their families due only to the fact that they have made up lies.  Anyway, the second CPS liar was supposedly in a major car accident, either they finally decided to pull her lying ass off of the case or karma took care of what I couldn’t do myself.  This brings us to CPS worker number three, third time’s a charm? Yes, finally a CPS worker with some sort of integrity, at least I hope, I don’t think I will ever fully trust CPS, but I haven’t caught this one in a lie yet.
I have recently had my trial start, it’s been stressful and I’d say horrible. The county lawyers called their witnesses first, and let’s just say, it was two days of feeling like we had lost. We finally got to call witnesses this Friday and I feel a lot better right now.  I see the truth, but does the judge? God, I hope she does, I just can’t believe people’s lies can come to this.  They have destroyed a good family, all because of lies. 
I think of all of the money that I have spent on this court case, and if you multiply that by three for all of the attorneys and maybe double it for all the court costs and police investigation, I bet it we are close to $400,000 for the cost of this whole deal.  What a waste of my money and your money, if the county was so concerned with my child, they should have just given me $200,000 and I could buy a house, and they would have saved around $150,000.  Then our county could put that money to good use by giving it to our schools.   Maybe they should have taken some of that money and used it for investigating the false claim instead of just filing a lawsuit.  I guess they thought it would be cheaper because most hard working Americans can’t afford an attorney and it would be an easy case to try when the county has it’s hands on all of the attorneys.